Does anyone have an opinion on?
31 July 2008 - 11:38pm — bdwhiddon
Does anyone have an opinion about Doctors who try not to feel when it comes to patients? Watching HOPKINS tonight and a nurse said "Most of these kids don't get to me". Does it offend anyone besides me? My husband says if they did feel for all their patients they would be crying all the time. I think having a heart is necessary. Give me your opinion.
Thanks Dana
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a terrible thing to witness chla
One night my husband and I witnessed what we call horrific straight from a doc's mouth. well first off doc's were doing routine rounds before shift change my husband and i were just about to step out and we over heard two neotatologist's argueing over a trach child one doc screamed "I dont want to put up with this kid any more lets just get rid of him, tell teh parents we did all we could and let him go! another doc agressively responded " all we can to we havent even tryed continuous feed's simv, mode,we can not send him off to be diss charged he is to week and ill.. the other doc snarled back and said well then if he Cant make it on the plan we have him on then he dosent deserve to be here
I made the bigest complaint filed a grievence agaisnt what is supposed to be the best hospital in the west and reported the doc to board of ped's. .
Thanks
Thanks for all the comments.
I guessed that they do care but it still offends me when I heaer my daughter's nurses say they don't let any child get to them. She notices it as well. She can tell in the way they deal with her. She then learns to expect less from nurses that don't see through the medical problems and she the scared three year old.
Hi - just saw your post. I
Hi - just saw your post.
I think that what the nurse perhaps meant is that she doesn't become emotionally attached or involved. I don't work with sick children, but I do help asylum seeking children with their legal claims and these (the genuine ones) are often young people with horrific injuries inflicted on them by adults, not to mention the emotional scars. I also advise lots of adults with similar stories. If you sit and think about what it must be like to have gone through what they have then of course it will upset you and make you feel awful, but when it's your job there is definitely a natural barrier that goes up that allows you to do your job and not get swamped personally by the things you deal with every day.
Does that make sense? It doesn't mean that they don't have a heart.
As a health professional
As a health professional myself, I can tell you that it is possible to empathise with your patients, but if you felt deeply for each and every one's plight, you would rapidly burn out and not be able to do your job properly. I don't think the nurses mean that they don't care, they simply mean that they let it skate over the surface of their emotions enough so they understand, but not so much that they get too upset to do their job right.
BTW, some kids really do stick in their minds, so I think the care is deeper than those nurses on the program let on. When my son is in hospital for sleep studies, nurses still come up from ICU to visit him - he's now 4 and he left ICU when he was 6 months old!
Kate - mother to Angus who is unusual and cute, and Juliet who is usual and beautiful
Doctors...
Hi Dana-
My opinion is that these doctors must get slightly desensitized seeing patient after patient, but if they did not feel then I do not believe they would be so passionate about their work. My son's ENT dr.s are very professional and too the point, showing little emotion. However I do believe they care for him and want the best for him. Kane' s therapists, who have been working with him from 4 months of age, are definately very attached to him and show an emotional bond. I do believe that doctors try not to show emotion and that is okay with me. I do not get offended because I know that my son's life is full of love and I trust that the doctors are doing their best.
Kane's Mother, Julie :)
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I do think having a heart does matter, when i hear the nurses talking like that i want to scream